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Hey Tabi!
Welcome to "Hey Tabi!" the podcast where we talk about the hard things out loud, with our actual lips. We'll cover all kinds of topics across the mental health spectrum, including how it intersects with the Christian faith. Nothing is off limits here & we are not "take-two-verses-and-call-me-in-the-morning."
I'm Tabitha Westbrook & I'm a licensed trauma therapist (but I'm not your trauma therapist). I'm an expert in domestic abuse & coercive control & how complex trauma impacts our health & well-being. Our focus here is knowledge & healing - trauma doesn't have to eat your lunch forever. There is hope! Now, let's get going!
How to connect:
https://www.tabithawestbrook.com/
Therapy Website: (We are able to see clients in NC & TX)
https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/
Instagram:
@tabithathecounselor
@_tjatp
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy & is for informational purposes only. If you need therapy I encourage you to find an awesome therapist licensed where you are that can help you out!!
Episodes
48 episodes
Resisting Without Becoming The Oppressor
When we’ve lived through abuse, or we spend our lives helping others heal from it, it’s shockingly easy to accidentally pick up the same tools, patterns, and power dynamics we’re trying to dismantle. In this deeply honest conversation,...
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Season 2
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Episode 24
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51:36
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From Betrayal to True Intimacy: How Real Healing Happens for Both After Sexual Addiction & Trauma
If you’ve ever wondered whether a relationship can truly heal after sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, or years of secrecy, this episode is for you.In this deeply honest conversation, Tabitha sits down with Matthew and Joanna R...
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Season 2
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Episode 24
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1:08:59
Is Biblical Counseling That Doesn’t Suck Even Possible? What Trauma Survivors Need to Know
What is good biblical counseling, really? And why is it so hard to find, especially if you’re a trauma survivor who's already been harmed by “just pray more” advice, sin-sniffing, or spiritual bypassing?In this week’s episode of...
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Season 2
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Episode 23
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1:03:35
Why Hope Isn't An Outcome, It's an Anchor
What if everything you’ve been taught about hope is backwards? In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dr. Jenny Bayless of Fuller Seminary to talk about why hope isn’t an o...
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Season 2
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Episode 22
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1:06:26
Story > Systems: Adam Westlake on Sanctification, Shame, and Hope
What if biblical counseling actually led to healing instead of shame? 👀 In this candid convo, worship leader–turned–biblical counselor Adam Westlake (The Worship Initiative, Shane & Shane) joins Tabitha to unpack why much “sin-detect...
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Season 2
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Episode 21
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45:49
Parenting Spicy Kids - How to Stay Calm When You're Told To "F Off"
Parenting a “spicy” teen? You’re not alone. In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dr. Greg Wilson, LPC-S and author of When Home Hurts, to talk about raising adolescents through trauma,...
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Season 2
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Episode 20
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1:02:23
Why Mindfulness Practice Matters for Trauma Healing
Have you ever tried mindfulness and thought, “This just isn’t working—I can’t calm down”? You’re not broken. Your body is simply doing what it was designed to do: keep you safe.In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabi...
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Season 2
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Episode 19
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15:43
Getting Trauma Informed Help Online - How to Spot Red and Green Flags
Online trauma help online can be powerful, but it can also be dangerous if you don’t know what to look for.In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook, unpacks how to find good, trauma-informed help online t...
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Season 2
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Episode 18
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27:45
Pastors, Stop Enabling Harm Through Your Silence
When pastors teach on marriage, sex, or addiction but fail to mention abuse, survivors in the pews hear a dangerous message: stay, submit, and suffer silently.In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbr...
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Season 2
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Episode 17
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33:47
Reframing Intensity: Passion, Not Peril
Intensity isn’t always anger—but it can really help to know the difference!In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook unpacks how to tell the difference between healthy intensity, destructive anger, and tra...
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Season 2
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Episode 16
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24:33
When Couples Therapy is Dangerous
Most therapists believe couples therapy helps struggling marriages—but here’s the shocking truth: up to half of couples seeking counseling are experiencing domestic abuse or coercive control. If therapists miss it, they can actually arm the abu...
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Season 2
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Episode 15
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20:54
What Can Christians Really Do In The Bedroom?
Christian perspectives on physical intimacy often lack clarity, leaving many couples confused about what honors God in the bedroom - especially if one or both partners are survivors of harm. True intimacy begins with friendship and mutual respe...
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Season 1
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Episode 13
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33:16
Breathing Through Chaos: Finding Peace in Hard Times
Tabitha leads us through five powerful grounding exercises designed to help us slow down, reset our nervous systems, and find moments of peace during difficult times.The 5-4-3-2-1 exercise engages all five senses to bring our awaren...
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36:01
What Teens Need to Know About Dating Abuse!
Teen dating violence and emotional abuse isn’t just “puppy love gone wrong.” It’s a serious issue that affects 1 in 3 teens, often before they even graduate high school. And it rarely starts with bruises - it starts with control, pressure, mani...
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Season 2
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Episode 12
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31:22
Why Being Kind To Yourself Feels So Hard - Explaining Backdraft
Ever tried to be kind to yourself only to be flooded with shame, grief, or anxiety? There's a name for this paradoxical reaction to self-compassion: backdraft. Like oxygen hitting smoldering embers in a closed room, self-compassion can sometime...
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Season 2
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Episode 11
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22:03
Self-compassion - A Vital Step in Trauma Healing
Trauma survivors often master compassion for everyone - except themselves. This creates a hidden cost to their healing journey. Self-compassion isn't self-indulgence but actually mirrors God's heart toward us and represents a crucial piece in t...
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Season 2
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Episode 10
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31:15
What If They Aren’t a Narcissist After All?
Are you quick to label someone a narcissist? This episode of Hey Tabi explores if the person hurting you displays signs of something even more dangerous. We'll cover dark psychology and challenge popular assumptions across the mental health spe...
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Season 2
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Episode 9
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24:55
The Hidden Crisis in Male Sexuality with Sam Jolman
Is male sexuality really just about lust—or have we been sold a lie?In this deeply vulnerable episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Sam Jolman joins Tabitha Westbrook to uncover the untold story of mal...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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44:35
A Raw Conversation on Jesus, Women, and Worth
What if your story of suffering isn’t disqualifying—but the very space where Jesus meets you? In this powerful and grace-soaked episode of Hey Tabi, I sit down with the one and only Elyse Fitzpatrick - author, counselor, and fierce adv...
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Season 2
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Episode 7
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55:23
If We’re "Doers of the Word’"… Why is the Church Still Failing Victims
What does it really mean to be a "doer of the Word" like it says in the book of James?In this eye-opening episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Neil Schori, pastor, father, and Director of Churc...
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Season 2
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Episode 6
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37:31
Why Standard Evangelical Sex Advice Is Wrecking Marriages - with Sheila Wray Gregoire
What if the marriage advice you were taught in church is actually what's ruining your marriage?In this powerful and data-backed conversation, author and researcher Sheila Wray Gregoire joins Tabitha to unpack the myths evangelical cultur...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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47:43
When Kindness Is a Trap: The Truth About Manipulative Kindness in Abusive Relationships
What if the sweetest thing someone ever did for you… was actually part of the abuse?In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook dives deep into the tactic of manipulative kindnes...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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20:52
Is the Evangelical Church A Sex Addict? What No One Wants to Admit
What if the church's problem isn't ignoring sex, but being obsessed with it in all the wrong ways? Does the Church really function like a sex addict? This provocative question frames our exploration into how evangelical Christianity's approach ...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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24:54
Holy Shift: Deconstructing Without Losing God
What if what you were taught about God isn't what God actually wanted you to believe?In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook dives deep into what happens when our theology has been shape...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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27:20
The King's Crime: Uncovering the Rape of Bathsheba
Did King David commit adultery—or was it something much darker? In this deeply important episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook examines the true story of David and Bathsheba. Spoiler: It’s not the sanitized ‘...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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21:44