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Hey Tabi!
Welcome to "Hey Tabi!" the podcast where we talk about the hard things out loud, with our actual lips. We'll cover all kinds of topics across the mental health spectrum, including how it intersects with the Christian faith. Nothing is off limits here & we are not "take-two-verses-and-call-me-in-the-morning."
I'm Tabitha Westbrook & I'm a licensed trauma therapist (but I'm not your trauma therapist). I'm an expert in domestic abuse & coercive control & how complex trauma impacts our health & well-being. Our focus here is knowledge & healing - trauma doesn't have to eat your lunch forever. There is hope! Now, let's get going!
How to connect:
https://www.tabithawestbrook.com/
Therapy Website: (We are able to see clients in NC & TX)
https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/
Instagram:
@tabithathecounselor
@_tjatp
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy & is for informational purposes only. If you need therapy I encourage you to find an awesome therapist licensed where you are that can help you out!!
Episodes
41 episodes
Getting Trauma Informed Help Online - How to Spot Red and Green Flags
Online trauma help online can be powerful, but it can also be dangerous if you don’t know what to look for.In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook, unpacks how to find good, trauma-informed help online t...
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Season 2
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Episode 18
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27:45
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Pastors, Stop Enabling Harm Through Your Silence
When pastors teach on marriage, sex, or addiction but fail to mention abuse, survivors in the pews hear a dangerous message: stay, submit, and suffer silently.In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbr...
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Season 2
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Episode 17
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33:47
Reframing Intensity: Passion, Not Peril
Intensity isn’t always anger—but it can really help to know the difference!In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook unpacks how to tell the difference between healthy intensity, destructive anger, and tra...
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Season 2
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Episode 16
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24:33
When Couples Therapy is Dangerous
Most therapists believe couples therapy helps struggling marriages—but here’s the shocking truth: up to half of couples seeking counseling are experiencing domestic abuse or coercive control. If therapists miss it, they can actually arm the abu...
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Season 2
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Episode 15
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20:54
What Can Christians Really Do In The Bedroom?
Christian perspectives on physical intimacy often lack clarity, leaving many couples confused about what honors God in the bedroom - especially if one or both partners are survivors of harm. True intimacy begins with friendship and mutual respe...
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Season 1
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Episode 13
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33:16
Breathing Through Chaos: Finding Peace in Hard Times
Tabitha leads us through five powerful grounding exercises designed to help us slow down, reset our nervous systems, and find moments of peace during difficult times.The 5-4-3-2-1 exercise engages all five senses to bring our awaren...
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36:01
What Teens Need to Know About Dating Abuse!
Teen dating violence and emotional abuse isn’t just “puppy love gone wrong.” It’s a serious issue that affects 1 in 3 teens, often before they even graduate high school. And it rarely starts with bruises - it starts with control, pressure, mani...
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Season 2
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Episode 12
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31:22
Why Being Kind To Yourself Feels So Hard - Explaining Backdraft
Ever tried to be kind to yourself only to be flooded with shame, grief, or anxiety? There's a name for this paradoxical reaction to self-compassion: backdraft. Like oxygen hitting smoldering embers in a closed room, self-compassion can sometime...
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Season 2
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Episode 11
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22:03
Self-compassion - A Vital Step in Trauma Healing
Trauma survivors often master compassion for everyone - except themselves. This creates a hidden cost to their healing journey. Self-compassion isn't self-indulgence but actually mirrors God's heart toward us and represents a crucial piece in t...
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Season 2
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Episode 10
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31:15
What If They Aren’t a Narcissist After All?
Are you quick to label someone a narcissist? This episode of Hey Tabi explores if the person hurting you displays signs of something even more dangerous. We'll cover dark psychology and challenge popular assumptions across the mental health spe...
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Season 2
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Episode 9
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24:55
The Hidden Crisis in Male Sexuality with Sam Jolman
Is male sexuality really just about lust—or have we been sold a lie?In this deeply vulnerable episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Sam Jolman joins Tabitha Westbrook to uncover the untold story of mal...
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Season 2
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Episode 8
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44:35
A Raw Conversation on Jesus, Women, and Worth
What if your story of suffering isn’t disqualifying—but the very space where Jesus meets you? In this powerful and grace-soaked episode of Hey Tabi, I sit down with the one and only Elyse Fitzpatrick - author, counselor, and fierce adv...
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Season 2
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Episode 7
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55:23
If We’re "Doers of the Word’"… Why is the Church Still Failing Victims
What does it really mean to be a "doer of the Word" like it says in the book of James?In this eye-opening episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Neil Schori, pastor, father, and Director of Churc...
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Season 2
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Episode 6
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37:31
Why Standard Evangelical Sex Advice Is Wrecking Marriages - with Sheila Wray Gregoire
What if the marriage advice you were taught in church is actually what's ruining your marriage?In this powerful and data-backed conversation, author and researcher Sheila Wray Gregoire joins Tabitha to unpack the myths evangelical cultur...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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47:43
When Kindness Is a Trap: The Truth About Manipulative Kindness in Abusive Relationships
What if the sweetest thing someone ever did for you… was actually part of the abuse?In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook dives deep into the tactic of manipulative kindnes...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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20:52
Is the Evangelical Church A Sex Addict? What No One Wants to Admit
What if the church's problem isn't ignoring sex, but being obsessed with it in all the wrong ways? Does the Church really function like a sex addict? This provocative question frames our exploration into how evangelical Christianity's approach ...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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24:54
Holy Shift: Deconstructing Without Losing God
What if what you were taught about God isn't what God actually wanted you to believe?In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook dives deep into what happens when our theology has been shape...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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27:20
The King's Crime: Uncovering the Rape of Bathsheba
Did King David commit adultery—or was it something much darker? In this deeply important episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook examines the true story of David and Bathsheba. Spoiler: It’s not the sanitized ‘...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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21:44
What If You Never "Get Over It"? Chuck DeGroat on Trauma, Compassion, and the Long Road to Healing
Is healing from trauma ever really “finished?" In this compelling episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist and host Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dr. Chuck DeGroat—therapist, pastor, and author of "Healing What’s Within"<...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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46:13
When Niceness Isn't Kindness: The Hard Work of Batterer Intervention
What does true repentance look like for someone who has abused their partner? Is real change possible—and if so, what does it take?In this hard-hitting episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with pastor, bibli...
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Season 1
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Episode 21
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50:53
Clergy Sexual Abuse in the Church: What No One Wants to Talk About with Dr. David Pooler
In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dr. David Pooler—professor of social work, licensed clinical social worker, and director of the Adult Clergy Sexual Abuse Advocacy and Res...
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Season 1
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Episode 20
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1:04:26
Are You The Nagging Woman Proverbs Talks About?
Have you ever feared being seen as the "nagging wife" from Proverbs? You're not alone.In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with women's leader and author Kelly Galyean to explore ho...
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Season 1
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Episode 19
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52:45
Weaponized Scripture - How Biblical Literacy Can Save Trauma Survivors from Spiritual Abuse
If you've ever had Scripture twisted to keep you silent, ashamed, or stuck in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook breaks down why biblical literacy is a critical p...
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Season 1
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Episode 18
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30:42
Powerful Affirmations Every Trauma Survivor Needs to Hear
In the beginning was the Word. Jesus spoke everything into existence. We know when we've been traumatized the words spoken over us are curses. Those curses often replay like a horrific record. Today we’re breaking chains and speaking life.<...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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19:49